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Originally Posted by Ayla
So here is the reason for the post though... I found out last night that as a child he was molested repeatedly by his uncle. NOT MY STEP DAD, but my step dad's oldest brother. For years this happened to Shawn and his brother. I don't know any of the specifics. I don't know if anyone knew it was happening when it was going on. I just don't know.
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Either way, it cannot undo what was done to Shawn and his brother. Perhaps some people knew, but denied it (for being to bizarre, and all that). Sad to say, it is often known abuse occurs, but nothing is done about it. And sometimes it remains a secret shared by the abused and abuser.
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When I heard this information I just felt so bad for Shawn. He never said a word about it to me. It explains why he was so emotionally screwed up though. I just wanted to call him and tell him I know and to let him know I am here for him, but I knew that would be such a bad idea. He would not want me to do that I don't think.
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You can't do much for him. Certainly if you are not aware whether or not he has dealt with it, one way or the other. It may well be a sensitive subject, even if his family knows about it.
It may cause a family rift, in which half the family is siding with Shawn and his brother, and the other half is siding with their uncle. And of course, if his dad does not know a thing, he may turn against Shawn, if Shawn would accuse his uncle.
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I just don't know what to do with this information, how to process it. It is such a shock to me. I feel like I should do something or take some kind of action...
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I am afraid you can't do much to change things. Perhaps DA can give an inside perspective on what abuse can do with a person. And how hard it is at times to overcome the damage.