I got her settled down and sleeping after a couple of Tylenol PM's. I think one of her greatest emotional hurdles is the fact that he was still alive when she ran from there. She turned back to look at him and knew it was wrong not to call 911 immediately. He didn't die until the next day. At the time she was a little high and got scared. Now she's straight and feels more than guilty...and rightfully so. This was a boy she knew and considered a friend.
I didn't judge her on it....nor will I. I think the end consequence will leave it's own judgement she will have to deal with and settle within her own heart. It won't be something easy to live with for a long time. Having that tattoo on her leg as a momento sure isn't going to help.
She wanted to contact his parents to apologize....but I'm not sure if that's the appropriate thing to do at this time. I think it may be best to let it go until some time has passed. What do you guys think? It could be a healing or it could lead to some parents being more than pissed off at her.
What I am proud of is that once she got passed the loyalty issue to her best girlfriend, she told the whole truth the first time she spoke to the officers and didn't try to cover anything up. She also does feel guilty....which apparently the other people involved don't. It shows her heart is in the right place....she just made some really stupid judgement calls.
She also now knows why I was so upset over her hanging out with these particular boys a couple of months ago.
Do you remember the old saying....If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...it's a duck? I think parent's have special intuitions in picking out the ducks.
Thanks for listening to me go on and on......... I'm so thankful I have good friends like all of you are to me.
Barbie
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