Mom talked to me about sex ever since I was six or seven. She told me about most things sex related, gays and lesbians included.
The message was not at all "use protection" but " men use women for sex", "sex is a weakness", "if you have sex you get preganat" etc. This approach worked on me, hahaha (in Romania there was not a bigger shame than to get preganat and not be married - shame for everyone, parents, relatives, let alone the girl. Things are changing, but people are still extremely judgemental).
I think the biggest problem is that parents don't talk to children. Period. If you treat them like your equal, you can show them that there's a LOT to learn about life and responsabilities and that there's no need to hurry. That you can't just have fun and not pay the price. You always do.
There are plenty of commercials about AIDS on tv and at school about condoms, I mean saying that teenagers get pregnant because their mom didn't tell them to use protection is really lame. Parents have to talk about SEX with their kids. Seriously. And then if the kid's smart enough, he'll listen.
Telling them only to protect themselves is not a sex talk and therefore is highly insufficient.
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