weiser, i'm sorry that you lost andrea.
she right though. if she's going to go to AA and try to work on herself to get clean, she can't be in any relationship. it will interfere with her recovery. If she is bi-polar, partying is the worst thing for her. people with this disorder who are on some pretty heavy meds shouldn't be doing any drugs or drinking. it's doesn't mix well with the meds she should be taking for her disorder.
andrea won't be ready for a relationship until she feels secure enough about staying on the wagon. but, that doesn't mean that you can't call her once in awhile and ask her how she's doing. she might really appreciate that.