What To Do
There are many things that parents can do to encourage their children to do household chores. Here are some suggestions:
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Start early
Parents should start giving their children household responsibilities when they are young.
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Show how to do the chore
Children need to know exactly what's expected of them.
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Teach one chore at a time
Young children can become confused when they are required to learn too much at one time.
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Break down the chore into small parts
When teaching chores, parents should break each one down into small parts. For example, instead of telling a child to clean his bedroom and leaving it at that, parents should list all of the things that make up the chore of cleaning the bedroom.
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Explain
Children need to know why pitching in and helping is important. Parents should explain that doing chores benefits the whole family, and that every person must do his or her part to keep things going smoothly.
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Provide logical consequences
For example, if a child repeatedly forgets to put his bike away at the end of the day, a logical consequence would be not being allowed to use the bicycle for a few days. On the other hand, a logical consequence for a child who repeatedly
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Don't repeatedly remind or nag. Parents should try to avoid falling into the trap of repeatedly reminding and/or nagging their children to complete their chores. Such reminding puts the responsibility for completion of the chores on the parents. Instead, parents should make sure that their children are given the sole responsibility for the completion of their chores. If a child forgets or refuses to do a chore, parents should say nothing and simply apply the consequences.
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Don't do the chore if your child forgets or refuses. Parents should not do their children's work for them. If parents get frustrated and give in and do their children's chores, children learn a number of things. First of all, children learn that their parents don't mean what they say and will not follow through. Secondly, children learn that if they hold out long enough someone will do their chores for them. Parents should simply apply consequences until their children comply.
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Provide lots of praise
For the entire article:
www.parenting-ed.org/.../ chores.htm