Vent your frustration. It's normal to feel angry with your children -- and feel guilty about being angry -- for putting you in this situation (even if you volunteered for the job!). Find friends -- not the kids -- to confide in. "You are not wrong for feeling this way," says Nelson.
This would be the hurdle I would have to cross over. If my kids had kids and something happened to them....I would gladly finish raising my grandchildren. However, if I had to raise the kids because they were sorry parents or on drugs.....I'd be pissed. Not at the grandchildren....but at my kids.
I've known Grandparents who raise their grandkids. I've worked with guys in that position. Some seem to do very well with it. Others say it's just too hard on their nerves as they've gotten older.
So, I guess it all depends on the circumstances.
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