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Originally Posted by Merika
1. If you were to adopt, would you want the birth mother participating in and having a visitation schedule with child you adopted?
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Most deffinately. I feel that a child needs to know thier roots and where they came from. Of course the birth family (mother, father, grand-parents) would have to make the effort. If they don't, then it would be their loss but at least I could tell my child that I tried.
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2. If you were giving up a baby for adoption, would you want a closed or open adoption?
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Actually, we were going to give eriak up for adoption to strangers. that was the plan until I broke down and couldn't go through with it. We were looking for an open adoption family because I wanted to stay in the child's life forever.
I think giving a child up for adoption has got to be the hardest and bravest thing anyone can do. I felt the torment when we had decided to do this and couldn't go through with it. It was horrible! the pain was unbearable for me. I'm not that brave I guess.
In the end, I'm very very happy that we changed our minds; we all are. Look at all we'd be missing. strangers would've been enjoying her all this time. the thought just makes my heart ache. She sure has been a joy to have around and we don't regret our final decision at all.