He wouldn't be open to discussing anything here unfortunately. It's not the threats I'm concerned about, it's when she actually beats on him that makes me upset, that's what I would call the police about.
Yesterday he made the comment that leaving her would be a bloody experience, literally. I asked him if fear of bodily harm is a good reason to stay in a relationship.
I've just spent the last hour bawling, I'm extremely sad for the life of his child and what she will have to go through with a mother like hers. I'm crying for all the pain she will experience and could be spared.
I'm really upset and don't know what to do but I think I'm going to talk to him this morning. We have meetings to attend and work to do but I'm going to explain that I won't be helping him as long as he's just going to use the money he makes to abandon what we're doing here and prolong the agony for him and his child. I can't do it with good concious, I know it may hurt him but unless I take a stance on the issue, he'll have me be an accessory. I want him to understand seriousness of his situation and that I feel the only way to get across to him how much I care is to give an ultimatum: the partnership is off and no help from me until he takes care of his personal affairs.
I hope I'm doing the right thing.
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