[Vautrin]

I must admit a few American psychological features are highly attractive. But politically speaking she and I hold fairly similar views, without both making it extremely important for our relationship.
As for discussing matters, we do tend to communicate quite well. About issues, problems, desires, and our possible future together.

And then you get the legal crap. Probably, even if we would get married, she cannot get right of residence here, despite being a college-educated professional. So we still have a bit of research to do. Grr...

It can be extremely hard to find a man / woman who has a similar mindset on these two essentials. For me it was also very hard, and I am probably less set in my ways. I don't have children, I am much less tied to people and places as you are.