Yes, I guess it does. I think you did love your mom's daughter or at least she had a special place in your heart. That makes all the difference in the world.
Your answer is so all together and after reading Merika's reply, it's as if I was confronting myself: it has to do with how I regard and the place I'm willing to let a man have in my life.
Deep down, I hate my father. I think because of him, I can't stand men, really. Of course, I show him respect and I act lovingly towards him, I even care for his appreciation. But I can't forgive him for the way he treated my mom when we were young. And how my mother hated him and kept putting me down for inheriting some of his traits of character.
the thing is, I realise it was his own life and that he made mistakes and that he regrets tha part of his life, but... we never ever had a heart to heart talk. I dare say we never talked about US, me and him, our relationship as father and daughter.We talk on a whole lot of other things, though, never about us.
And somehow, I'm still angry at him and angry at all men, because at times I see in all men arond him, the traits of character I cannot stand, his traits of character.
I am good at playing pretend, I can have a relationship, but a child... I want to be true to my child. A child is sharing, no matter how you put it.
That's why I asked Duke those questions, I thought he had a conflicted relationship with his daughter's mom...
So even if it is abot children and offsprings, this thread is also about anger and hurt and not letting go.
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