My husband and I have been married for 38 years come September and I know from personal experience, and as you said, there are no perfect people. My husband and I were two of the most dysfunctional kids you ever met, we both came from dysfuntional families, maybe I should say problematic families.
But through thick and thin, I can only speak for myself, not for him, I always loved and love him more each day!
We weren't the greatest of parents, neither were our parents, but we did what we knew at the time as did they.
There is nothing wrong with expecting the best, but you have to be prepared to live with what you cannot change.
In my case, my husband deals with me through his sense of humour if we have a problem, and that totally works with me. But it took a lot of hard work together to get here!
A relationship takes a Lot of work, but treating a person with respect is what I think is the most important, and a relationship can grow together if you treat each other tenderly.
I don't know if any of this helped, it's just what I've learned!
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