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twinkle · 07-24-2005, 04:53 PM

I know that there are no perfect people, but... I'm wondering about something.

It's one thing to go out with a guy you like (I mean he has lots of good traits you like and simply shut up and grin at his bad parts) and another thing to have a child with such a person.

Do I have unresonable expectations as to the future husband of my kids? I mean, in my head, he'd have to have all the best traits of character in the world, because:

a. I don't intend to raise the kid by myself
b. I don't want the kid to be picking his bad traits and me mothering them both.

The thing is, I don't want to do have to do it all alone.

Maybe I have a too good of an opinion of myself and I see myself as perfect? That's why I just can't imagine having a kid with any of the men that are around me for the moment - I don't want to have a child, I'm speaking hypothetically.

IT's so weird, my first bf had a lot of what I wanted in the father of my kids, but I just didn't love him anymore.

I'm so puzzled, I don't know what's more important, loving the father of your child, picking a good father for your children... waiting for a man who'd meet both criteria? Do you think that's possible?

I'm all mixed up right now.

07-24-2005, 04:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
twinkle Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 2,255	On the long run I know that there are no perfect people, but... I'm wondering about something. It's one thing to go out with a guy you like (I mean he has lots of good traits you like and simply shut up and grin at his bad parts) and another thing to have a child with such a person. Do I have unresonable expectations as to the future husband of my kids? I mean, in my head, he'd have to have all the best traits of character in the world, because: a. I don't intend to raise the kid by myself b. I don't want the kid to be picking his bad traits and me mothering them both. The thing is, I don't want to do have to do it all alone. Maybe I have a too good of an opinion of myself and I see myself as perfect? That's why I just can't imagine having a kid with any of the men that are around me for the moment - I don't want to have a child, I'm speaking hypothetically. IT's so weird, my first bf had a lot of what I wanted in the father of my kids, but I just didn't love him anymore. I'm so puzzled, I don't know what's more important, loving the father of your child, picking a good father for your children... waiting for a man who'd meet both criteria? Do you think that's possible? I'm all mixed up right now.