I remember the last time i saw my dad before he dissapeared, my mom and dad were personally seperated and he would come and visit us sometimes...well he told us that he would be there the following Monday...and the monday he was supposed to come my brother and I were waiting outside for him from 7am to 7pm and he never showed up....
when my brother and I got to be a little older we started to ask our mom why dad wasnt around...she told us that he wasnt worth being sad over....but we had always remembered him as being a great dad, when he came home from work just before he would pull in the driveway my bro and I would jump on the hood and ride up to the house.....
About 4 years ago we had finally stoped caring about where our dad was and things started getting better and my mom and bro and I were starting to be a real family....and then My Dad called and he said that he was sorry for everything and i was so happy just that he was there finally that i never asked him why he left....
now it has been HORRIBLE he is a @$$clown who hasnt helped my mom raise us in 7 YEARS!!!! and still hasnt paid child support....he is a druggy con-artist who isnt worth being on the face of the earth...
So StoneHeather...if your son's biological father is anything like ,mine, then you're better off not letting your son know him because at first your son will only see the good in him but as he gets older he will start to think...why doesnt my dad live with me?? and I think that it would be better if he thought your boyfriend was his real dad and didnt know that he had a deadbeat dad
because in the long run it is easier for the child to just remember good times about his father/stepfather than bad memories about a deadbeat dad
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