Merika, you are absolutely correct and I agree with every you've said.
My daughter yearns for her biological family that I've kept away from her all her life. She also yearns for her dead father. I guess it's human nature to want to know your biological parents. I probably would've gone through the same things as the both of you had with your children if her father didn't die. He wasn't a very good person either and I don't think i'd want him to visit with my daughter unsupervised either. Him dying (and I do hate to actually say this) made it easier for me as far as my daughter was concerned to not have any part of that family again.
I do feel your pain and frustration with this delema. It can't be esy to have to deal with.
