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Merika · 10-25-2004, 11:11 AM

Stoneheather,
I have LOTS of experience between children and a missing Dad. I've seen heartache and disappointment between my children and their Dad which is almost beyond words. Years of absences....then he comes around and once again....they try. Remember last January when my daughter decided she was going to go live with a man she hadn't even seen for FIVE YEARS because he was her Daddy? There wasnt' a damn thing legally I could do about it!

I'm not going into the whole story here because I would prefer them telling their own side of the story....and hopefully one of them will.

I will tell you this....no matter what you do or what he has done....you wil NOT separate your child from him! You can keep them apart for a number of years perhaps....but you will not stop the relationship.

I've heard my children talk to other friends with Dead Beat dads. They may make jokes about them, cuss them or any other number of things....but deep in their heart....that's their DAD. And nothing is going to change it.

This is not just my opinion....I know that I know it to be true.

I would go through the courts, obtain joint and individual therapy sessions ordered by the court, supervised visitations....ANYTHING to make the transition smoother than it will be when your son announces to you that he HAS a Dad and intends to check out the relationship.

I'll tell Isis you are going through this and have her post her feelings. No one knows more than she does how the love you feel for a parent....however SORRY A$$ED they are....does not negate the child's love or need for them.

10-25-2004, 11:11 AM	#11 (permalink)
Merika Retired Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Florida, USA Posts: 1,000	Stoneheather, I have LOTS of experience between children and a missing Dad. I've seen heartache and disappointment between my children and their Dad which is almost beyond words. Years of absences....then he comes around and once again....they try. Remember last January when my daughter decided she was going to go live with a man she hadn't even seen for FIVE YEARS because he was her Daddy? There wasnt' a damn thing legally I could do about it! I'm not going into the whole story here because I would prefer them telling their own side of the story....and hopefully one of them will. I will tell you this....no matter what you do or what he has done....you wil NOT separate your child from him! You can keep them apart for a number of years perhaps....but you will not stop the relationship. I've heard my children talk to other friends with Dead Beat dads. They may make jokes about them, cuss them or any other number of things....but deep in their heart....that's their DAD. And nothing is going to change it. This is not just my opinion....I know that I know it to be true. I would go through the courts, obtain joint and individual therapy sessions ordered by the court, supervised visitations....ANYTHING to make the transition smoother than it will be when your son announces to you that he HAS a Dad and intends to check out the relationship. I'll tell Isis you are going through this and have her post her feelings. No one knows more than she does how the love you feel for a parent....however SORRY A$$ED they are....does not negate the child's love or need for them.