I'm curious also although your description sounds like she's got it all covered well. She's a great kid!!!!
Kassandra's like your daughter. she doesn't give in to bad peer pressure at all. she's told me recently that some of her friends smoke and do drugs. she's told me that they've offered these things to her and she turned them down. she says that if they don't want to be her friends because she says no to drugs or smoking then they weren't her real friends in the first place. I was so proud of her when she told me this. Gerry and I did our jobs in teaching both our kids how to be this way and Kassandra actually practicing it makes me feel really really good.
Kassandra also will get in the middle of anyone that's bullying somebody. she'll stand by the person that's being bullied. That also impressed me because she figured out on her own that if she just stands by and watches this happen and do nothing about it, then she's just as guilty as the bully. She hates to hurt people (that's why the pantsing thing I couldn't understand her doing and it was so shocking!!!!) and will try to help anyone who is sad or hurt.
Kassandra is deffinately a leader. I hope to god she stays that way throughout her teenage years.