Your wife is unhappy with her life and confused about her feelings. Try and remain hopeful, she still cares deeply for you and has not said she no longer loves you.
Your family has been under tremendous pressure because of your situation and you've all dealt with that as best you can. It's difficult to give advice when she has shared so little of her feelings with you but from what you've said, she feels that you are holding her back. Maybe she feels that the financial and emotional burdens have fallen more on her than on you. Maybe she feels responsible for you and the responsibility is too much along with all the other pressures in her life. I could be wrong, but this is my best guess based on what she has said to you.
Whatever the reason, she does not turn to you for emotional support. Why not? You need to know this. This is more about her perceptions of the relationship than any objective assessment of what you have done or not done.
Do continue to encourage her to open up to you but do not pressure her (she clearly feels pressured now). Don't ask things of her, offer things to her. Be her port in the storm. Let her go if she needs to, or spend time alone if that will help her uncover her feelings. Be supportive and welcoming when she returns to you.
This may not help but it certainly won't harm your relationship and if she still loves you it will encourage her to start sharing her life with you again. It's a hard task for you, you'll need to deal with all your anxieties about your uncertain future on your own and not look to her for reassurance that she can not give at the moment. Remain as involved in your daughter's life as you can. Good luck, Chaos.
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