Chaos, I know where you're coming from here d00d but believe me when I tell you, it's gonna be crappy for a while, but then you'll one day start to notice the positives. Sadly your a statistic as what your going through happens to many people daily. Breakup is usually the story of one person hurting another who never expected it and still wants things to go on. It takes two people to want the same goals from day one and both have to work together through the ups and downs. It's the same with an engine, if one spark plug misfires then the car has no power, same with any relationship.
Most importantly to know is that your not alone. I'm sure your friends and family will be there for you in times of need and you always have us here. If you want to talk one on one sometime my friend, I'd be more than happy to hook up on MSN, TS, or phone if you wish. I feel horrible for your situation but it is best to not try and change yourself to please a woman who is unpleasable. You will only do extreme harm to your self esteem and only fall harder in the end. It's not worth it, I know, I've been there for more than a full year with a newborn baby girl.
You want to know the best part of it all? It may take some time, but you will heal and maybe move on. Your relationship with your child will likely be 100 times better after you seperate than it currently is. I was so distracted with trying to please my mate that I totally ignored my child and had very little patience when it came to being a dad back in the day. It took some time, but after leaving that crappy situation, it took a while, but everything started getting better. Now I do what I want to do and when. I also do what my child wants to do and we have the best time together of anyone I've ever known, ever.
You have to find the strength inside of yourself to accept what may happen and start preparing yourself for it. If you do, the transition will be easier. You do have a headstart as you know that she want's to end it, I had no such luxury and was completely blindsided. Use this time to strengthen who you are and get ready for what may be inevitable. You can't change her mind for her, she has to do it for herself. Stop being a punching bag for her and do what's right for yourself. Focus on you first and then your kid, forget her because she's forgotten you.
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