SORRY....I missed your post earlier today. I guess I didn't scroll down far enough or something. Anyway.....
There can be alot of reasons why a marriage begins to fall apart. I'm not sure if it's actually due to finances....but it seems to be what people end up focusing on and arguing about. People get stressed out, nerves are frazzled and they look for someone to blame.
I wish I could say that there was some magical formula to fix it....but I really can't. Some people stay together for the sake of the kids and some don't.
From a female point of view....I CAN tell you this....go out there and get a job whether you like the job or not. It doesn't matter what it pays. This is the reason why: If a female is paying the bills...the first thing she's going to begin thinking is that if she has to do provide for the bills anyway....what does she need a husband for. This won't happen in a well established marriage when a hardship occurs....but most women seem to really resent being married to someone who isn't working.
Not only will it give her a new confidence in you....but it will give you a new confidence in yourself.
Keep posting and talk it out with people who care....but aren't so close to your situation that they can't be objective about it. You can't MAKE her talk to you...but perhaps in talking with other people....you'll pick up an idea for a new angle on how to approach her.
Till then....hang in there. We've ALL been thru the crap mill a time or too and totally understand.
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