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10-23-2004, 05:46 PM

Stoneheather, here are the answers to your questions:

It does sound like a drug problem but she's not doing drugs. She has been tested regularly and no drugs in her system. She smokes cigarettes, that's it. She told me she's tried weed and extacy once and didn't like the effect the drugs had on her. Only she knows the true answer to that question I suppose. I'm just going with the tests results.

As far as the father to her baby is, she says it's this one guy, he's 23 (I'd love to rip him a new you know what!) and a real low life type guy. What he's doing with a 16 yr old (apparently was with her since she was 14) is beyond me and tells me how immature he is. My daughter has nothing my trash for friends. People I wouldn't let ten feet near my house. Dangerous people. Street people.

She has 2 older sisters from her biological father's (another story on its own) side that she hasn't been able to contact for about 2 years now. we don't know where they are. no name is the phone book. Her little sister lives with us here and yes, she talks to her for long periods of time when she does call home. They do miss eachother.

Like you but on a more violent scale, my daughter at the age of 14 pulled a butcher knife on me one day and stabbed the microwave instead of me. We called the Police and that was the first time we had her arested. It went downhill ever since for her. She's had a lot of charges but they're not violent ones (except for that one) or for theft or drugs, they're for breaching probation from the knife cahrge and for not obeying rules in the home (judge ordered her to obey rules in the home). So, her warrant is for breach because she ran from the foster home after being ordered from a judge to remain with CAS in a foster home and go to school.

We will never give up on her, ever. The door is always open for her to come home and she knows that she has to have rules to live here. I was a stay at home all her life (while she was living with us until 14) and only went to work for the last year and 1/2 (to stay busy and sane). I am back to being a stay at home mom again so her sneaking in here won't be successful. There was a point while she was living with us that we had to put locks on our bedroom and her little sister's bedroom doors because of her stealing. We had to hide our money and cigarettes. She has never sneaked into our home to steal though. this was only done while she was living with us.

Now that she's 16, if and when she decides to come back home, there will be limits and rules she'll have to follow. if not, i'll have no choice but to tough love her out the door. Doesn't mean i don't love her though. i love my first born with all my heart and soul. This is a tough love case. that's done to do as a parent.

I'm really happy to hear that you've come out of this OK. I understand rebellion as I was one of those teens too (been on my own since 16) but not to the extent that my daughter is doing. I too put my parents through hell and back and am very sorry i did. You know that old saying? You get it back twice as bad as you gave it? Boy, has that proven to be true in my case!

How old are you now if you don't mind me asking? and at what age did you come back to your parents?

10-23-2004, 05:46 PM	#38 (permalink)
Star Posts: n/a	Stoneheather, here are the answers to your questions: It does sound like a drug problem but she's not doing drugs. She has been tested regularly and no drugs in her system. She smokes cigarettes, that's it. She told me she's tried weed and extacy once and didn't like the effect the drugs had on her. Only she knows the true answer to that question I suppose. I'm just going with the tests results. As far as the father to her baby is, she says it's this one guy, he's 23 (I'd love to rip him a new you know what!) and a real low life type guy. What he's doing with a 16 yr old (apparently was with her since she was 14) is beyond me and tells me how immature he is. My daughter has nothing my trash for friends. People I wouldn't let ten feet near my house. Dangerous people. Street people. She has 2 older sisters from her biological father's (another story on its own) side that she hasn't been able to contact for about 2 years now. we don't know where they are. no name is the phone book. Her little sister lives with us here and yes, she talks to her for long periods of time when she does call home. They do miss eachother. Like you but on a more violent scale, my daughter at the age of 14 pulled a butcher knife on me one day and stabbed the microwave instead of me. We called the Police and that was the first time we had her arested. It went downhill ever since for her. She's had a lot of charges but they're not violent ones (except for that one) or for theft or drugs, they're for breaching probation from the knife cahrge and for not obeying rules in the home (judge ordered her to obey rules in the home). So, her warrant is for breach because she ran from the foster home after being ordered from a judge to remain with CAS in a foster home and go to school. We will never give up on her, ever. The door is always open for her to come home and she knows that she has to have rules to live here. I was a stay at home all her life (while she was living with us until 14) and only went to work for the last year and 1/2 (to stay busy and sane). I am back to being a stay at home mom again so her sneaking in here won't be successful. There was a point while she was living with us that we had to put locks on our bedroom and her little sister's bedroom doors because of her stealing. We had to hide our money and cigarettes. She has never sneaked into our home to steal though. this was only done while she was living with us. Now that she's 16, if and when she decides to come back home, there will be limits and rules she'll have to follow. if not, i'll have no choice but to tough love her out the door. Doesn't mean i don't love her though. i love my first born with all my heart and soul. This is a tough love case. that's done to do as a parent. I'm really happy to hear that you've come out of this OK. I understand rebellion as I was one of those teens too (been on my own since 16) but not to the extent that my daughter is doing. I too put my parents through hell and back and am very sorry i did. You know that old saying? You get it back twice as bad as you gave it? Boy, has that proven to be true in my case! How old are you now if you don't mind me asking? and at what age did you come back to your parents?