Star, does she have a Drug abuse problem? Do you know who the father of this child is? Is she still contacting her friends? Have you went to faimly therapy? does she still contact her sister?
I was in her shoes ( but not preagant) I was in several runaway homes, I unfortunatly beat up my mother at the age of 15 and got charged with domestic violence... Why did I do it.... I don't know I wanted to go and she wouldn't let me.... I regret it everyday, and I am sure if she became violent with you or your faimly it wasn't a PEROSNAL attack on them, it was simply her not thinking strait. I am consirned about drug/ alchol abuse, it sounds like she is on a rollercoaster, and when she is comming down she calls home ( I could be wrong)
There really is little you can do, my parents NEVER gave up on me ( and I wouln't blame them if they did) They always let me know I was loved, after awhile they stopped asking me questions and lectureing me about things, and just said "I love you and I drive myself crazy thinking about you everynight, You are always welcome in our home if you need anything we will help you, but there are rules that you need to follow"
NEVER give her money or ACESS to your home when you are not there.... I used to sneak in my parents house and eat, sleep and leave before they got home from work.
Unfortunatly you have to wait untill she crashes and has no choice but to change, I was in mental institutions... Psychs couldn't find anything wrong with me. Childrens homes... I ran like hell. One day I woke up and said if I die tomarrow I can't let my parents think this was their fault, and I slowly changed. I was a REBEL and nothing was going to stop me but me... Good Luck, she'll come home but when she does you need to set LIMITS and IF she is ready to change, she'll obey if not don't let her come home. Unfortunatly she has already grown up so fast that it's hard for her to think of her self as a child.
I'm praying for you both. :wink:
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