I'm sorry for your troubles Star. I cannot offer any advice that will open some secret door to a world that you and your child can co-exist in.
Unfortunately, you're correct when you state raising children is a gamble. You can only do your best and hope for the best, the rest isn't really up to you. I think your daughter is very confused and may have some deep issue affecting her that you aren't aware of. Obviously she feels she can get her answers somewhere else which is at the root of why she hit the road. Maybe the chores and rules have something to do with it but I really doubt they are the whole picture, although I guess it's possible that is the case.
Does your daughter suffer from a phsical problem that you may be unaware of? Is she hiding a deeper problem such as rape, std, or other? I'm sorry to ask such blatantly ignorant questions but I feel your pain and would really try to understand since it's unlikely I can help.
BTW, if you need help registering I can take care of the process for you, that is, if you're interested. You can e-mail me your desired name and password and I'll do the rest for you. My e-mail address is
sirapnek@shaw.ca
Sincerely,
ken (aka Duke)
Lifesupporters.com Founder