[Duke]

This is what I came up with. I believe it's far less emotional, confrontational and much less insulting in nature. I understand that Noah's father may be the biggest loser on earth, but writing a letter telling him to go to hell and giving him directions won't make him very helpful in this matter.


Jeremy,

Our son posed a very interesting question to me the other day wondering why dad doesn’t love him. It is understandable as he recently turned 5 years old and hadn’t received so much as a phone call from dad or his grandparents. I’m sure you must understand that this is difficult for anyone to comprehend, especially a child. Sadly, this is the third year in a row that this has happened which may be the reason for him feeling unwanted in your, and your families life.

I’ve had the same phone number PHONE NUMBER HERE for over 3 years now and it’s extremely rare that I receive any phone calls from you in regards to our son Noah. I have made myself available to you when it comes to visitation with Noah but it seems you either have no time or interest in seeing your son.

As you can imagine, this is taking its toll on Noah and it really must come to an end. A young child needs both parents and if one parent is continually unavailable then the child starts to wonder why. Sadly, most children come to the conclusion that it’s somehow their fault, which is completely unfair. I’m not sure what’s keeping you too busy to be a part of your child’s life but it’s not really my concern. I’m concerned about Noah’s well being which is why I’m writing to you.

It’s quite clear that the Harris family has abandoned our son. For this reason I believe he should carry the Stone family name. We take care of Noah and give him the sense of family, warmth and security that all children deserve. It may also help to make Noah feel a little more secure to carry the same Surname as the rest of the family around him. I should hope you agree that it is in our best interests to allow our child to feel included as a member in the family that is his main source for nurturing and growth.

Sincerely,


Heather.


I'm not saying to use it, but I'd definately recommend toning down your letter. The best advice I've ever received in writing was a Business Writing for Results course I took a few years back. Essentially, write what you think and walk away for 24 hours, then edit what you wrote. Chances are you'll completely re-write your letter and see where all the glaring errors are.

Good luck with whatever you decide SH.

Sincerely,

Ken