I think it really depends on the kid though too. If you know you're child and have actually paid attention to them and gotten to know who they are then you can guage what you can and can't say to them. I think the problem that most parents have is that they have an idea of what they want their children to be and let that blind them to who their children really are.
As a parent, I encourage you to stfu and actually listen to what your childs saying, there are so many great clues about who they are in there and it will only help your relationship grow stronger. Stifling who they are or trying to mould them isn't a good thing IMHO because they may grow to resent you.
Of course I've been lucky with my child and what I'm saying prolly doesn't add up to a hill of beans in Stars life. Essentially, no matter what, you have to shelve what your thinking in order to truly listen and the only way to listen is to shut up. Even if your thinking of an answer while your child is talking it means your not listening.
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