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that's a very good idea in fact, every woman in any relationship should put some money aside for herself. I do all the time. I tell gerry I need so much money for the bills and add a couple hundred dollars. that way i always have money so if i need or want something, i can go get it or if an emergency comes up, i at least have money to take care of it with.

I would put that money away and save it for when you decide to leave him. You can save a nice amount of money if you start doing that now stone.