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Old 05-06-2005, 07:53 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Rock
What the cheater thinks can be both for his / her gratification, as thinking of his / her own partner as someone who is stupid or naive. I guess the latter is more dominant in the case of affairs, than in the case of a one night stand.
As I've seen it, the cheating party thinks NOTHING of the cheated partener. All they are thinking of is self gratification. In NO MOMENT were they thinking about the couple, because if they were, they'd have at least imagine the consequences.

You say they do it because they subevaluate the partner. I say they're doing it and hope to get away with it. It's not a mind game. It's more of "I broke a glass, I'd better throw the pieces in time before mome gets home".

Unfortunately, the emotional scars are always there. That's why it hardly ever works. As an exemple, men can say a hundred times "oh, it's just sex", it's never just about sex.
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