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Old 05-06-2005, 07:44 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Rock
I think some people believe that in giving the same amount of emotional commitment over time then it will continue to be valued the same way it was in the beginning as it will be in 1, 5, or 10 years, This is an unrealistic expectation for many people.
Humans are by no means rational beings, and economics is by no means a fully rational science. But Rock has an extremely valid point in that a lot of people, for whatever reasons, think that way subconsciously. And of course that affects the ways in which they act.
From the people I know, that is what happens in a lot of relationships.

As for cheating, there are a plethora of causes for that, and most often it has nothing to do with the betrayed partner. It will be taken as something personal.

What the cheater thinks can be both for his / her gratification, as thinking of his / her own partner as someone who is stupid or naive. I guess the latter is more dominant in the case of affairs, than in the case of a one night stand.
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