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Originally Posted by Merika
I was reading the thread on 'people's perceptions' of you and DA mentioned a person cheating on you.
WHEN a person cheats on you or misleades you.....what IS their perception of you? Do they think you are stupid, naive, vulnerable, will forgive them for anything or what? Or do you think they think of none of these things....they are only thinking about their own personal gratification by getting your attention?
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I do not think we can read anyones mind so we never know about "perception."
We can conclude that because the person "cheats" that they are not receiving from you what they need. Maybe at one time they did, but now they don't. In economics we have studied the "Law of Diminishing Returns." Basically, the more you receive of something the less value it has.
I think some people believe that in giving the same amount of emotional commitment over time then it will continue to be valued the same way it was in the beginning as it will be in 1, 5, or 10 years, This is an unrealistic expectation for many people. Again in Economic terms the Law only applies to "rational" behavior. So rational people can be expected to value emotional commitment less and less as they receive more and more of it.