What your friend said is right. You do distrust for awhile. the trick is to try and not punish the next person you have a relationship with. Hopefully by then, you'll have come to terms with it and accept it as it is and it won't be a problem. Dating too soon can cause a problem with that.
Your story reminded me of when I broke it off with my first love. I broke his heart and he really didn't deserve it at all. I was confused also and part of me wanted to go out there and play the field but I did love him with all my heart all at the same time. But, knowing that playing the field and staying with him wouldn't be fair to him, I broke it off. the day before his birthday to boot.
He will always hold a peace of my heart just as I know I hold a peace of his heart. That will never go away. But, that doesn't mean that you can't fully love another Paul.
I think what happened here was the timing. The timing wasn't right for the two of you just as it wasn't right for my first love and I. Life sux sometimes.
You will find another love but don't jump into anything too quickly. take this time to heal and forgive.
