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Meanon, how are English people again?
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Difficult to generalise, twinkle, but they tend to be quite reserved at first then very friendly. They have a love of eccentrics. London is very different to other English cities, much less friendly. You must visit sometime.
I can vaguely remember what it's like to be a foreigner living alone in a country where you know almost no-one well. I was very lucky, I made what was to become a life long friend the day I started school here. She was very popular and eased the way for me socially with others until I stopped being such an oddity and grasped the basics of the culture. It helps to live in a cosmopolitan environment. I turned down a place in a world class private school (where I would have had nothing at all in common with the girls) to study in the heart of the city.
For you education is your top priority, rightly so. Some of your difficulties may arise from your life choices which accentuate the difference from your peers. The young so often form their emerging identities by aligning themselves with those similar to themselves. When you are older your difference will be valued more and more, twinkle.
Meanwhile, don't try to fit in. Pursue people who interest you, don't waste your time on those you find boring. Look for interesting people. Having had the time of my life for three years in Manchester, I went to Med school and it was like stepping off the plane all over again. I was miserable for a term. I tried to transfer, couldn't and decided there had to be people in my uni I had more in common with. I found them eventually, in neighbouring halls. The hall I was in was very weird and they selected kids of a certain background. I'd slipped through the net as a medic.
Making friends is not difficult if you meet people who interest you. There's nothing wrong with the people you are mixing with, twinkle, they just aren't your types.
Your post talks about how you come across at first, I'm sure that you also do invest time, when someone catches your interest, in finding out about them. It works both ways, people will want to be your friend if they feel you are interested in them. Your interest in others comes across well on the net. It may be worth thinking about whether it does IRL too. But it can't be faked, you have to want to get to know them in the first place. They have to be worth the effort. If they're not, that's fine. Go for quality, not quantity.