The problem with chat-friends is of course they are most often not near in a geographic sense. Friendships can develop online, but you can't take someone to the movies, or to an art exhibit online.
Because they are less real (what is the chance I would run into Duke or Stone for instance?), it is also easier to share more of what goes on in our lifes.
Making friends is not hard for me, but most often I have little desire to do so. I have few true friends and many normal friends, with all sorts of backgrounds.
I normally would not even bother on university, especially when I attended classes for Psychology. Most of the students had little to offer conversationwise, and were more interested in living the student-life (going out, partying et cetera), than being a true student.
Yes, maybe I was too mature for them, since I was 18 years old. Maybe my goals in life differ a fair bit from their goals. I don't want to try their life-style, and they really would not want to try mine.
That is not something that comes and goes, but is deeprooted in me. There is not a force in the world which could make things otherwise.
Maybe the same is true for you twinkle. As was mentioned earlier in the thread, the quality of the friends counts for at least as much as the number of friends.
As for finding people who understand you almost completely, they are extremely hard to find; it depends mostly on your personality and character - the complexer you are, the harder it is.
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