Hi Laura,
I'm sorry that you're so sad at a time when you should be full of joy and happiness.
I would deffinately sit him down and tell him how I feel and I would do that before I marry him. I would let him know of my concerns and wants and don't wants.
Since he is a catholic and by the sounds of it, he is a practicing one, it just might be a religion thing. I am a catholic and I know that catholics do not agree with sex before marriage so perhaps he might be feeling a little guilt about doing that so close to the wedding date. I've knows catholic couples to abstain from sex as soon as they got engaged until the wedding date.
If it is that he really truly believes that sex isn't high on the priority list of marriage then I think you need to really think about your future with this man. Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life? With a man who wants a sexless marriage? On his deffence, sex isn't the most important thing to a marriage but it is something that a married couple cannot live without as sex either. You need to be intimate with your life partner.
Do you think he will change after you marry him? he doesn't believe in using birth control so how are you supposed to control how many children you have? that part would have me question my upcoming marriage to this man also. Does he plan on keeping you barefoot and pregnant so you're trapped in the house with 5 or 6 kids? Is it a controlling issue with him? has he shown any signs of control?
You do need to sit down with your fiance and really have a heart to heart about all these issues before you marry him. Marriage is a partnership and you both need to be on the same page with absolutely everything so there are no surprises that you or he may regret after your married.
I've been with my husband for almost 16 years, married for 10 this year. We're on the same page about everything which makes us happily married. That is VERY important to be on the same page before you're married or you'll be divorced before you know it.
I truly hope that everything works out for you and your fiance. I wish you both the best.
