Everybody should decide what works best for him / her.
Myself, I would prefer somewhat slightly reversed roles, compared to the traditional ones.
I would prefer to work part-time, preferably from home. In that way, I would not lose my precious time on traffic, and travel but on matters of importance
. Making enough money to live on. And allowing myself the time to write when it is convenient.
What gf / wife does is a bit irrelevant in this, as I can see both the alternatives work somehow. But of course, either way it takes a good discussion.
Of course if I had children, I would not mind to look after them (after they have grown into male-handleable creatures that is).
And Stone: Is it about Greg in particular, or would any man suffice for you? I am totally unawares of the legal rights he has to Ally, and how that translates into financial responsibilities towards her.