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Old 03-15-2005, 10:01 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Yeah, but how can one determine when another person crosses that boundary?

If we look at the criteria Samon has suggested:
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Falling in love with someone other than wife/significant other (giving REDIRECTED emotional energy), purposefully visiting them on a regular basis (redirecting your time), sharing inner thoughts/feelings, and fantasizing about a future together (redirecting your thoughts).
As I wrote earlier: "I have not been involved in an emotional affair, but it might be true that friends of mine have been in an affair with me."

How can I know if a friend has crossed that certain boundary? The boundary simply depends on the friend's definition of emotional infidelity. I cannot read what goes on in other people's mind (contrary to beliefs of others).
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