I didn't think about this when I originally posted, BUT Delilah and I are entering the dreaded 4th month (according to Signpost Theory), and I see clear parallels between initial "dating" experiences and our "marital reconcillialtion" that began shortly before the new year.
For those that cannot recall, or were unaware, after many "Hell DAYS" I was in a divorce lawyer's office and left with worksheets designed to divide our assets/liabilities. Delilah had agreed to an amicable divorce if she could move to Florida with the kids.
A couple of days later, she begged for a reconcilliation, I told her she needed to get a job and stop obsessing about my past "emotional affair." We both agreed to have a change of heart, and sex was plentiful for a month, during which she went to work.
Work, it seems, is quite unpleasent for Delilah. You see, she has a "boss" that "tells her what to do" and "how to do it" and even, <<<<gasp>>> "when to do it." She returns home with the baggage, unabashed, as punishment for forcing her into working. In addition, she makes every excuse to interfer with my own schedule; wherever collaboration would benefit me, it is avoided at all cost.
But I have so far not flinched, carrying out the additional duties she has assigned. Bought her flowers to celebrate her employment, and schedule Friday "Happy hours" with her, returning home from work with wine and hor'deurves, bought her a new (used) car, painted the upstairs of our home..........
Perhaps its time to have another "attitude" discussion.
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