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YellowLioness · 03-08-2005, 12:31 PM

Exactly, Star!

Merika, you are a good cheer-er upper! Thanks!

My mom's not cool with me going to Europe. She think that I should just go to Kentucky and get married, and not go to Europe because, "it's so expensive. Why can't you just go to Kentucky and do it?"

I was like, "Mom, it's my life, and I'll go to Scotland if I want to. I'm almost 24, and when I'm married I'll be 25. I'm an adult now. This is how I want to do it."

She said, "Well, sure dear."

I'm not sure what's going on with that. She doesn't seem to really want to go to my wedding in the first place- she acts like she doesn't care about that. I'm not sure why it means anything to her that I get married in KY. Not that KY isn't a pretty state- it is- but it holds no emotional value for anyone in our family.

Maybe she's just jealous that I'm going over seas. I don't know. She always acts with derision any time I make a decision for myself that goes against what she feels is best. When I told her I was going to get a dog, she said, "Why do you need a dog? They're so expensive, and they're worse then children. You'll never be able to go anywhere."

And yeah, that is true. But, I knew all of these things beforehand. It's just strange to me how she behaves. She also wants me to leave Bean and come and live with her,"Think of all the money you'll save! You could do anything you wanted to do," but when I'm home she's VERY difficult to deal with, to the point that she drives me away with her, "Nothing you say or do is good enough" attitude. Then she says, "Oh, I thought you were staying longer!"

Beanie and I are considering moving out of WV. It's a box- people come here and get trapped by the poor economy. Mum is all for the move, but whenver I mention a place to her, like South Carolina, California, etc. she always has huge objections. "South Carolina- too many hurricanes! California- too liberal! Besides, all of those earthquakes!"

Then, she blamed me for messing up her computer when all I did was defrag it. Turns out her keyboard wasn't working properly. It's like everything has to be my fault, and nothing I can do will ever make me a worthwhile person in her eyes.

It sucks that she can't even be happy for me a)finding someone that I'm happy with and b) deciding to marry him.

Whatever I've done, I wish that she could put it behind her and just wish me well.

*sigh*
I don't get her! Maybe I'm not supposed to.

03-08-2005, 12:31 PM	#32 (permalink)
YellowLioness Regular Contributer Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 173	Exactly, Star! Merika, you are a good cheer-er upper! Thanks! My mom's not cool with me going to Europe. She think that I should just go to Kentucky and get married, and not go to Europe because, "it's so expensive. Why can't you just go to Kentucky and do it?" I was like, "Mom, it's my life, and I'll go to Scotland if I want to. I'm almost 24, and when I'm married I'll be 25. I'm an adult now. This is how I want to do it." She said, "Well, sure dear." I'm not sure what's going on with that. She doesn't seem to really want to go to my wedding in the first place- she acts like she doesn't care about that. I'm not sure why it means anything to her that I get married in KY. Not that KY isn't a pretty state- it is- but it holds no emotional value for anyone in our family. Maybe she's just jealous that I'm going over seas. I don't know. She always acts with derision any time I make a decision for myself that goes against what she feels is best. When I told her I was going to get a dog, she said, "Why do you need a dog? They're so expensive, and they're worse then children. You'll never be able to go anywhere." And yeah, that is true. But, I knew all of these things beforehand. It's just strange to me how she behaves. She also wants me to leave Bean and come and live with her,"Think of all the money you'll save! You could do anything you wanted to do," but when I'm home she's VERY difficult to deal with, to the point that she drives me away with her, "Nothing you say or do is good enough" attitude. Then she says, "Oh, I thought you were staying longer!" Beanie and I are considering moving out of WV. It's a box- people come here and get trapped by the poor economy. Mum is all for the move, but whenver I mention a place to her, like South Carolina, California, etc. she always has huge objections. "South Carolina- too many hurricanes! California- too liberal! Besides, all of those earthquakes!" Then, she blamed me for messing up her computer when all I did was defrag it. Turns out her keyboard wasn't working properly. It's like everything has to be my fault, and nothing I can do will ever make me a worthwhile person in her eyes. It sucks that she can't even be happy for me a)finding someone that I'm happy with and b) deciding to marry him. Whatever I've done, I wish that she could put it behind her and just wish me well. sigh I don't get her! Maybe I'm not supposed to.