My dad sent me this great list today that addresses some things men do to thier wives which damage the relationship, it made me aware of a couple things I've done in the past and want to change.
This is from a Christian site but I think the message is relevant to everyone and very helpful.
http://www.christianity.com/partner/...149862,00.html
There's also a Wife's Personal Checklist:
http://www.christianity.com/CC/artic...149858,00.html
Also there is a Parent's and a Children's Checklist. As I said, it's from a Christian site but generally you can apply most of the points to most people.