I don't think disliking the company of your family means your a jerk Duke. Some people just aren't particularly fond of their families or individuals who are a part of their family.... due to any number of reasons.
My Dad and brother are the cheapest stingiest people I've ever met. I think just about anyone who knows them....would totally agree. However, I love them because loving your family is like loving your children....it doesn't come with 'qualifications'. I don't love them because of....I love them in spite of.
AND....I can only hope they love me with the same frame of thought I love them by.
Then again, I was never abused, neglected or lived with an alcoholic. I'm sure that comes with it's own challenge of trying to find love for them in the midst of it all.
Usually though....carrying bitterness is much more damaging to the person with the load of hurt in their heart....than the person(s) who caused it. Staying angry only hurts you. Maybe you've gotten to a place in your life when you are ready to let it go because the love you share with your daughter has taught you many things and filled in the open gaps in your heart.
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