I think it's perfectly normal for you to feel a little left out. Admit it or not, most of us don't mind sharing but we like to do it on our terms. All of us need someone in our lives to talk to, laugh with or just share space. Sometimes having children in the picture gets in the way of being there for your spouse and may be one of many reasons why marriages break up. I'd like to stress here that it is not the kids fault, it's simply a case of too much need and for one person to deal with. It is at these times when it's imperative that couples communicate about how they feel and take steps that satisfy both of them.
I can tell you something I do know for a fact though. In my case, it's imperative that my significant other be around while I have my child with me. I'd much rather have my child grow use to the fact that you'd be around rather than simply have to deal with it one day. My daughter didn't really get to know her stepdad prior to him marrying mom and I think she struggled with it in the beginning. It's likely you can say that with all kids who's parents re-marry. I also know that if a parent communicates with their child about the issue, they will understand. Kids are not dumb nor blind and they often know more than you're telling them anyway.
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