My input is pretty much worthless here b/c i dont work... My position is with Mike working with the horses going in at 8am finishing about 1pm and then leaving for the races at 2-3pm and not getting home till 10pm if i got a job we'd never see each other....
Supporting someone for a long period of time and struggling as your doing it puts alot of strain and resentment in the relationship... If she valued the relationship she would understand this and suck it up... thats just my opinion b/c i've been the one supporting the other... and i've been the one supported... I know if me not working put extra stress into the relationship I would get up and get a job but now it works for us the way it is... and once i find what i want to do i'll go out and do it but right now i'm lost with what i want to do for the rest of my life...
But staying together for the kids is wrong... It actually damages the kid more with two parents unhappy or even just that air of unhappiness... My parents stayed togther alot longer than they should have and we all knew it... My siblings and I actually started resenting my mother for what she was putting my father thru and lost respect for my father for letting her do it to him.... To this day I have a hard time talking and looking at my father... think about that one too as you try to repair a marriage for the kids or b/c its too complicated
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