The portion of bitterness one feels from divorce is largely based on the number of years you were in it, the investment you made and the losses going out. Yes...those losses can be in living in a different house from your child for the first time....all the way to traumatic financial losses.
I have a friend who is out of this situation now since the children are adults. However, he got a divorce, not to his choosing, as a young man with four children. He lost his home, his vehicle and related assets. He then paid such a huge amount of child support, insurance, extra child related expenses....until he barely had enough money to live on.
In addition, he neither had the room (since he rented in a hovel) or the finances to keep his kids on the prescribed weekends or summer weeks.
He was/is still very bitter about his divorce.
In contrast....I've raised two children BY MYSELF with no child support. I have bitterness issues as well.
Neither of these situations have anything to do with lost love. Lost love happens. However, when your life gets totally torn a part and your kids suffer.....as a parent and adult....bitterness comes with the territory.
Just another angle.
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