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You have valid feelings duke. I put myself in your shoes and I would be sad too to have to drop off my child and not be able to see her until the weekends or every other weekend. Do you talk to her on the phone during the time that you don't have her over? If you wanted to, would your ex let you take her out for supper or to a movie if it isn't your visiting time?

Hubby and I had this conversation tonight about what if we broke up. I told him that I wouldn't fight him for custody. We'd have joint custody at our discretion. We would let Kassandra decide where she'd want to live and we wouldn't stop the other from seeing her whenever they wanted. Hubby would want her to live with me since i'm a stay at home mom. We would try to keep everything as normal as we possibly can so that she wouldn't be too sad.

Hubby and i did break up for 3 months when the girls were very little (kassandra was 2 and krystal was 5). I got my own apartment, he gave me all the furniture i needed to make the apartment a home for the girls and he visited with them every single day and I didn't stop him so it wasn't a huge shock for them. I did my thing, he visited with his girls. Unfortunately, not everyone can be as amicable in these situations and the sad thing is that the kids are the ones who get hurt the most. Pain sometimes make people behave in ways they wouldn't normally.

I'm done rambling now! :?