I know what you mean. Things are rarely that clear and easy, many times seeing the ex is needed in order to get closure. And as my bf says, there's nothing more common than wanting, trying or going back together, especially after a long relationship.
In my experience... it doesn't work. But both parties need to feel and understand this before moving on, or else they'll always be thinking of "what if". What I'm trying to say is that this time, the time you think and convince yourself that it's over.... this time is lost. The pain, the thinking... I compare it with band aid. The more you linger, the more painfull it gets... I've done this. Lingered. Not had the courage. Was afraid. Oscilating. Once I've just gone through with it, I wanted to take a stick and beat myself up for the coward that I've been... I'll never have that year back. I'll never be 22 again.
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