It depends a lot on how you see a break up. To me, it's the fact that I don't want to share my life, my days, my thoughts with the other person.
It's like a declick that happens inside my head. Of course, your life changes and your feelings cannot just simply be turned off as if they were pourring through a tap. But trusting your heart and going with your gut is the only way to survive. It's so easy to look at the past and find things in it to keep two persons together...
Acceptance? Yes, to accept the fact that you have changed and that you are different, that you have different needs and desires or at least that you're not comfortable the way you are, e.g. in that couple.
Understanding? Yes. Lots of it. For yourself, for the hesitations, worries, most certainly mistakes you're making. For the other person's ordeal.
But they all go hand in hand with courage. Having the courage to put in action as soon as possible what you've decided. The thing is the sooner you do it, the sooner it's over. Don't forget that lots of things cannot be explained or understood. Yet one must try to continue his/her life.
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