I'm amazed. Where does she find men that easily? I'm not familiar with the American way of living, but I have at least two friends, good looking and single for at least 2 years. They're 24, btw, LOOL!!!
Sorry, just trying to change the subject a bit.
Star... try to ERASE Krystal. I know I'm not a mom, and it's a horrible advice, but one cannot help people unless they really want and Ask to be helped.
Watching your kid "drawn" must be devastating, yet one must "die" before is "reborn". Don't try to stop the process. Don't cover her A**, don't help her, don't call her. Just turn away. Let her that she is all alone. Meaning no support, moral or financial. Hopefully it will be the cold shower she needs.
Think Erika! She's a few months now, how about when she'll be 2 years old? Able to speak? To walk? How will she handle her coming and going? Doing all that she wants?
Please please please don't hate me for saying this, but my honest opinion is that you did the Christian thing to do: helped a little soul come to this world. Now you have to protect her like a true mother does. You have to protect her from Krystal. I think you should do everything in your power to cut Erika from your daughter. If indeed Erika and not Krystal comes first... then you have to have a controlled environment when they meet.
Krystal is walking away with a man she barely knew. I won't ever say STDs. Get someone else to keep coming there when she arrives. Other people spot things you may involuntarily not see. Make it tougher on her to reach Erika. Make her fight for her rights. That's the only way to appreciate it. If she walks away, she didn't desrve it in the first place.
I don't know how or when Krystal will change. If ever. I do know she needs to reach top bottom before she does. Don't prevent her from doing so.
Love,
Diana
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