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Grief has got to be the worst thing to have to go through in life. Losing someone you love is devestating. The emotions that one can experience when grieving can be overwhelming.

1. Denial and Isolation. We tend to deny the loss has taken place and may withdraw from our usual social contacts.

2. Anger. You may be very angry at the person that left you behind, at the world, with God and even at yourself for allowing this to happen even if there was nothing you could do to stop it.

3. Bargaining. You may try and bargain with God asking him if you do this or that for him, will he take away the loss.

4. Depression. You feel numb even though you feel anger and sadness deep inside.

5. Acceptance. As time goes by, you accept the reality of the loss and learn to live without your loved one.

The grieving process is approximately 2 years on the average. Some take longer then others to go through the process.

I lost my daughter's father when she was 11 months old to a road accident. He was on his way to work out of town (kitchener, Ontario) and never made it there. A transport truck made an illegal left turn and killed him instantly. I didn't find out until 8:00 pm that night. The police came to my door and I knew something really bad had happened to him. They then took me to go identify his body at the morgue. That image will be forever embedded in my mind. He left 3 daughters behind.

I had a very good support system when that happened to me. Thank God for my wonderful friends and family who were there for me, consolling me, keeping me busy so that I could grieve and move on. My daughter was my ultamate rock though. I had no choice but to get back up on my feet and move on for her well being. I think if I didn't have her at that time, I probably would've had a nervous breakdown at the age of 25. I had a reason to move on; my baby.