I'm not good at confrontation either. I hate conflict. In fact I have a dreadful habit of saying what needs to be said and then immediately asking if everything is alright, which can be very irritating.
I do it when I begin to feel resentful, because then I reckon it's unfair to get all
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pissed off and hurty feelings
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without telling the person how you feel.
If you attack someone, you are often making all sorts of judgements about them based on their conduct which may or may not be accurate. Better to stick to how you feel, I find, as it means you are more likely to get a constructive response.