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Merika · 12-26-2004, 06:14 PM

I sent you a PM Duke....not to take away from the thread....but due to some other factors.....

I understand the hands shaking thing....it makes me want to cry for you in remembering how that feels. Christmas two years ago after a two year relationship.....but we had met.....and now he was going to war.....and I find out his wife, living in a different part of the country, was not AWARE they were in divorce procedures. I felt like I was going to die.

Internet/ LDR's have their place and can work out wonderfully. It is also relationships where people can play and hide a myriad of truths. You can know them SO WELL.....but it's that one portion of their life you aren't aware of which can throw a clog in the wheel.

To make it worse, due to distance, there is no way to demand closure or explanation. It's as though one day everything is wonderful....and the next day....it feels like the person you knew all this time died. They disappear. You feel stupid and vulnerable and hurt.......

It's always possible there is an explanation. But as your post suggested...when is enough, enough? Only you can make that call. It's the most painful call you'll ever have to make. I wish I could take it all from you my dear friend.....but life just isn't that kind.

Wecome to the world of bitterness. It'll pass though....and you'll either get this thing patched up or you'll move on. Either way...it won't ever be the same.

I have NO IDEA how one person can hurt someone they love like that. You know they haven't been involved with you for years without having deep feelings....they had to mean SOMETHING they said. But you begin to wonder.....and the wondering drives you nuts.....and makes your hands shake.

12-26-2004, 06:14 PM	#10 (permalink)
Merika Retired Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Florida, USA Posts: 1,000	I sent you a PM Duke....not to take away from the thread....but due to some other factors..... I understand the hands shaking thing....it makes me want to cry for you in remembering how that feels. Christmas two years ago after a two year relationship.....but we had met.....and now he was going to war.....and I find out his wife, living in a different part of the country, was not AWARE they were in divorce procedures. I felt like I was going to die. Internet/ LDR's have their place and can work out wonderfully. It is also relationships where people can play and hide a myriad of truths. You can know them SO WELL.....but it's that one portion of their life you aren't aware of which can throw a clog in the wheel. To make it worse, due to distance, there is no way to demand closure or explanation. It's as though one day everything is wonderful....and the next day....it feels like the person you knew all this time died. They disappear. You feel stupid and vulnerable and hurt....... It's always possible there is an explanation. But as your post suggested...when is enough, enough? Only you can make that call. It's the most painful call you'll ever have to make. I wish I could take it all from you my dear friend.....but life just isn't that kind. Wecome to the world of bitterness. It'll pass though....and you'll either get this thing patched up or you'll move on. Either way...it won't ever be the same. I have NO IDEA how one person can hurt someone they love like that. You know they haven't been involved with you for years without having deep feelings....they had to mean SOMETHING they said. But you begin to wonder.....and the wondering drives you nuts.....and makes your hands shake.